Does love equal longing? Are we looking for love while actually looking for our self that seems to lack? Do we think that another person can fix our own shortcomings or, rather, do we think that another person can compensate for what we longingly dream that we should be…
Nobody gives what they don’t have
There is a plethora of definitions of love. In its own way, each and every one of them describes that driving energy, meaning, state… Sometimes in the profane world, we certainly distort the primordial definition, state, being… Are statements like “you attract what you radiate” a little bit too ambitious if we accept the fact that we do not always radiate love, but always expect to be on the receiving end… Everyone strives for it, everyone loves attention, everyone expects it, everyone calls for it, but is sometimes the expression of love just a longing for love that is far from the love itself…
The saying “Birds of a feather flock together” is almost always true, but here, just like with everything else, there is an exception to the rule. Lost souls know how to find exceptionally positive souls in order to finally bring some light into their distorted perception of life and learn a lesson, which ultimately, we all do – because life is the school. Their intention is not necessarily bad, but not even a scorpion wanted to sting a frog, and in the end, it still happened, because that’s the only thing it knows…
Longing can be hidden behind a strong rush of an inexplicable emotion, a passion that contains both driving and destructive energy at the same time… And space… After all, what is left for us but time and space… A handful of tears and a bagful of laughter…
Loving cannot be learned because loving does not mean receiving but giving. In order to give something unconditionally, we have to learn the game of love and its relationships, without asking ourselves “what I get out of it”. Sharing, caring, closeness, understanding, sincerity – those are the frameworks within which this love game must lay healthy foundations on which we can build further… There must be passion, but a constructive one, in which there is no place for those lower and basic instincts such as vanity, jealousy, envy, anger, prejudice, excessive criticism, hypocrisy, deception…
In the search for love, the intellect can hardly provide all the answers. Love is spontaneous and it finds us when we least expect it. All preconceived ideas about how our special one should look, stereotypes learned from books or romantic movies, at that moment when the real Cupid’s arrow truly hits us, should be forgotten…
We can’t approach it by force, true love runs away if one forces anything, it runs away from manipulations of any kind; we definitely need to be open, relaxed and cool… If we rush it, we can easily win a battle, but we will end up losing the war… But for the aforementioned time and space, little is left for us. In that love union, both time and space will be real and fine-tuned filigree like the most accurate clock, a clock that we can neither hurry nor slow down, that we can only wait for when the hands of time and space cross on the same love journey of two lovers. That connection should be felt deep in the soul, be unusual, unique, different, when you just know that it’s that, “that something” that you can’t really explain… Because love just IS.
Forget the woes, they are for fools, don’t waste time, let’s try to love each other…